I think you’re choosing to ignore what I’m saying. To re-iterate, the way two people interact, solve challenges, overcome conflict, treat one another, gives their children the foundation of being a better person. Individually given advice etc is fine, but without the partner present, the children miss out on direct observation of such valuable interactions and find it elsewhere, whether it’s good or not. I’m not saying that individually the parenting is poor, as I’m sure yours is not, but there is a missing aspect that the child doesn’t experience. Get me?