J360
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I think to divorce over apology sounds like pride. We tend to think that time heals all wounds, but if something from years ago hurt me, or if anything is hurting me, I would want to be able to tell my partner about it. I would want my feelings to be valid and not have an "expiry date" as thats just not how feelings work. Sort it out together, my dad always said "never be too proud to say, I'm sorry".I
Pride and ego are fun but when does the apology becomes used as an instrument of manipulation. If you do something wrong and apologize at what point do you say I’ve apologized 100 times nothing has changed and the thing that your apologizing for is not being repeated then what. There comes a point that the apology becomes something else and no longer an issue of pride. I’m trying to understand the underlying reason why a person would need an apology over and over, I believe the apology is being used to fulfill something in the self. My understanding is that we do things (behaviors) in our lives that serve us in some way. Example: A child grows up being called stupid by the parents the child grows up never feeling smart enough or good enough so child over compensates and becomes an overachiever or believes the parents assessment and under achieves in their life. Not realizing it was never about him/her the parents did this because they needed to push the child down to fulfill an inadequacy in themselves. You know something like that. So what do you think.I think to divorce over apology sounds like pride. We tend to think that time heals all wounds, but if something from years ago hurt me, or if anything is hurting me, I would want to be able to tell my partner about it. I would want my feelings to be valid and not have an "expiry date" as thats just not how feelings work. Sort it out together, my dad always said "never be too proud to say, I'm sorry".![]()