Tulip23 said:
is this rabid enough
not quite frothing at the mouth but looks pretty mean
Oh yeah....
Those are the bunnies I'm talking about!!!
Before I post the next instalment
in two or three days (patience children), lets have a recap and follow-up.
Tip one was about being prepared to move out of your comfort zone. The example I used was merely that, - it isn't just about going to different places to meet members of the opposite ***, although it could be.
~I think we saw from Eve's post that she stepped outside her zone on just one tiny thing - which was a height requirement for a potential partner - moved it down by one inch - and doubled her dating site replies.
~We also saw (maybe) that another poster has a life he is in fact quite comfortable with. Too comfortable to step out of his zone for the sake of a partner, anyway. And who knows, her may find someone, even so. Good luck to him, whatever he choses.
~Nicole - steady on there lass - is becoming a 'new experience' junkie. Even if she doesn't find anyone, she might have some fantastic times, a more positive attitude and some interesting things to talk about to a potential mate.
~Grackle - thought of something to try that is doable and has win/win benefits. It may be difficult to get out there and do something when you have social anxiety/shyness issues, but trying something and sticking to it will increase self confidence.
~Teresa - decided that she was happy in her zone, as it were. And as far as I can see has never complained about her choice, and that is absolutely fine!
~Me - despite two nights terrible sleep due to nerves, (they won't like me, I won't fit in etc') went to a 'Ladies Lunch' met some new people, and expanded my chance of making a few new friends, and had a nice meal. We are having another one on 11th April. I may have had a ton of therapy, but I still have my off moments!!
~Batman55 - has intimated that he has problems which make it (one assumes) impossible to do anything different. As I don't know what the problems are, there isn't much I can say to help. Maybe we will learn more from him about this, maybe not, if he doesn't want to say, that's ok. All I can say is that some obstacles require professional attention. But I will say this - even one little thing, one tiny move outside the comfort zone, can be a good thing.
Because
THE COMFORT ZONE IS A TRAP. It may be nice, it may be cozy, but another name for it is
A RUT....... The longer you stay in it, the harder it can be to get out of it. And that is fine - if you are happy there and really do not want to increase your chances of love/friendship/companionship - whatever. If that is the case, recognise it, and learn to be happy with it. You are likely going to be there a long time.
But if you could do something different, and you don't - at the end of the day you only have yourself to blame. And if you only try once, and it goes a bit wrong - ditto, really. You have to try and try. And try again. Practice really does make perfect. I know. I've been there..
ps Skafish - I ain't forgetting you. Your star feature is coming later.... mwha ha ha gurgle
mutter mutter aargh aargh get that rabid weasel off my leg... Union? rabid weasel union? Bring on the bottled dog farts while we negotiate. Sheesh !! !weasels - what was I thinking