Questions for the Women

[Paraiyar]

Before I ask this I want to make it clear that I do understand that some women DO approach men. But if you're in the category that won't make the first move on a guy you like or are attracted to (which I believe to be the majority) what are the fears or worries that hold you back from doing it? You're highly unlikely to make anyone feel unsafe or creeped out so there must be other reasons. Is it to do with not wanting to be seen as sexually promiscuous?

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Why do women tend to believe all that tarot card, physic reading, looking into the future garbage ?
I've never met a bloke who believes it and I've only met a few women who don't.
It seems to be a woman thing.
Why waste money on this garbage ?

I can't speak for other women but I personally don't believe in any of that although I used to be a bit more gullible to it in my younger years. Anything related to supernatural beliefs is a load of bunk. Give me some science, that a far bigger turn-on for me than superstitions.

-Teresa

What happens if science ends up supporting the existence of the supernatural?

http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2423692

http://profezie3m.altervista.org/archivio/TheLancet_NDE.htm

Also worth considering is Van Lommel's article here which is discussing the same study:

http://www.skepticalinvestigations.org/Mediaskeptics/vanLommel.html

 

[ladyforsaken]

Before I ask this I want to make it clear that I do understand that some women DO approach men. But if you're in the category that won't make the first move on a guy you like or are attracted to (which I believe to be the majority) what are the fears or worries that hold you back from doing it? You're highly unlikely to make anyone feel unsafe or creeped out so there must be other reasons. Is it to do with not wanting to be seen as sexually promiscuous?

For me, it would be either out of shyness, anxiety: of people, of rejection, of ridicule for being not attractive enough or good enough for them. Also out of not wanting to be seen as a creep or a fool, since some men feel like it should be men making the first move, not the other way around. I have approached a guy before with my feelings, but that's like one of the rare times I braved up to do it. What helped was that it wasn't done in person.

 

[Paraiyar]

Before I ask this I want to make it clear that I do understand that some women DO approach men. But if you're in the category that won't make the first move on a guy you like or are attracted to (which I believe to be the majority) what are the fears or worries that hold you back from doing it? You're highly unlikely to make anyone feel unsafe or creeped out so there must be other reasons. Is it to do with not wanting to be seen as sexually promiscuous?

For me, it would be either out of shyness, anxiety: of people, of rejection, of ridicule for being not attractive enough or good enough for them. Also out of not wanting to be seen as a creep or a fool, since some men feel like it should be men making the first move, not the other way around. I have approached a guy before with my feelings, but that's like one of the rare times I braved up to do it. What helped was that it wasn't done in person.

I used to fear rejection. Then I got rejected a few times and realised it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. If someone rejects you then just think of it as their loss. I do realise this is a bit different if strong feelings are involved though.

 

[Veruca]

Before I ask this I want to make it clear that I do understand that some women DO approach men. But if you're in the category that won't make the first move on a guy you like or are attracted to (which I believe to be the majority) what are the fears or worries that hold you back from doing it? You're highly unlikely to make anyone feel unsafe or creeped out so there must be other reasons. Is it to do with not wanting to be seen as sexually promiscuous?

Every guy I've ever known (ex-boyfriends and friends), has told me that its better for girls to not be that forward because guys find such acts either intimidating or that it takes the fun out of the chase for them. And that girls who make the first move can come across as easy or desperate. So I stopped =/

 

[Paraiyar]

Before I ask this I want to make it clear that I do understand that some women DO approach men. But if you're in the category that won't make the first move on a guy you like or are attracted to (which I believe to be the majority) what are the fears or worries that hold you back from doing it? You're highly unlikely to make anyone feel unsafe or creeped out so there must be other reasons. Is it to do with not wanting to be seen as sexually promiscuous?

Every guy I've ever known (ex-boyfriends and friends), has told me that its better for girls to not be that forward because guys find such acts either intimidating or that it takes the fun out of the chase for them. And that girls who make the first move can come across as easy or desperate. So I stopped =/

Maybe part of my brain is missing because I've never felt this way and yet I consider myself very conservative. I have been known to miss the starting gun on a lot of things though...

 

[JHK]

Before I ask this I want to make it clear that I do understand that some women DO approach men. But if you're in the category that won't make the first move on a guy you like or are attracted to (which I believe to be the majority) what are the fears or worries that hold you back from doing it? You're highly unlikely to make anyone feel unsafe or creeped out so there must be other reasons. Is it to do with not wanting to be seen as sexually promiscuous?

Every guy I've ever known (ex-boyfriends and friends), has told me that its better for girls to not be that forward because guys find such acts either intimidating or that it takes the fun out of the chase for them. And that girls who make the first move can come across as easy or desperate. So I stopped =/

I actually have heard guys say this. I don't think it's right or wrong, I do find it slightly odd, however. Most of the guys that I met with his mentality always seemed to be in short term, non-serious relationships so it makes me wonder if they have a "catch-and-release" attitude.
I'm not very suave when it comes to...being serious. I can pick up - usually a "wanna fresia" because that's all it is. If I think I like you, I'm quiet. I guess I observe while I can because when you get to me I'll ruin it.
I'm fairly good at reading signs but I like not having to guess all the time. I don't see why women shouldn't be able to come up say "Hey, I just met you..." (Okay, maybe not that annoyingly - I apologize if I got that song stuck in anyone's head but in payback, it's in mine)... Anyway, why NOT say how you feel? I think if there is something wrong with that, there is something wrong with the male.

I'm not a hopeless romantic but I'm not a jerk either. I like to open doors and pull out chairs and put you on the inside of the sidewalk and be a protector so I guess I'm conssrvative that way but I certaintly wouldn't want a timid house wife either.

I don't think I'd go for the chick that was telling every guy in the bar she was interested but I do appreciate forwardness and honesty.

I don't know. When I was younger I liked it, I guess. The thrill and lure of getting what you think shouldn't or whatever... Now it's less of a game and more serious... So maybe it's an age thing? Or mentality, I guess, cause some consider me really young still.

 

[Triple Bogey]

Why do you ignore a guy one day and then the next act like you want to marry him ?

 

[Christina Sarah]

Why do you ignore a guy one day and then the next act like you want to marry him ?

Anyone can be fickle. It's funny that this is a question for women, because I clearly remember experiencing this kind of thing with men. It doesn't matter the gender. Sometimes people are focused on wanting something and they don't think that you're what they're looking for, but then it turns out that they were distracted and you were what they wanted the whole time... or what they felt they needed at the time.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Why do you ignore a guy one day and then the next act like you want to marry him ?

What do you mean by "act like you want to marry him"? For myself, if someone seems to be ignoring me, and I am thinking about it a lot...Well yeah, the next time they pay attention seems to be a great deal. Not saying this is the case with you, just wondering what you mean.

 

[Syber Tiger]

Why do you ignore a guy one day and then the next act like you want to marry him ?

how do u mean ignore, like full-on ignore,or just a "hi" "how are you" "ok" then don't talk for the rest of the day,

as that can play in important roll,next time if she ignores you, go to her and ask if shes ok and if u can do anything,just show you care, most likely its not something personal ,just more "one of those days" or feeling down and don't feel like talking,

and how often do this happen?

other thing is its that time again,and she just feels irritated,and don't want to upset you by saying anything rude,as he really likes you (the act as she wants to marry you),and don't want to spoil things

hope it all works out

 

[BeyondShy]

Why do you ignore a guy one day and then the next act like you want to marry him ?

I get what you mean. One day you believe you are getting along really well with a girl and the next day it's like someone erased her memory.

Like I said, I understand what you mean but do not have an answer for it .

Every guy I've ever known (ex-boyfriends and friends), has told me that its better for girls to not be that forward because guys find such acts either intimidating or that it takes the fun out of the chase for them. And that girls who make the first move can come across as easy or desperate. So I stopped

Uh-huh.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Why do you ignore a guy one day and then the next act like you want to marry him ?

I don't do that, so I can't really give my thoughts on that. Wanting attention, maybe? Or perhaps they didn't want to be bothered on one particular day, and instead of taking it out on anyone, they ignored people.

 

[BeyondShy]

I don't do that, so I can't really give my thoughts on that. Wanting attention, maybe? Or perhaps they didn't want to be bothered on one particular day, and instead of taking it out on anyone, they ignored people.

Anyone ever tell you that you make too much sense?

 

[VanillaCreme]

I don't do that, so I can't really give my thoughts on that. Wanting attention, maybe? Or perhaps they didn't want to be bothered on one particular day, and instead of taking it out on anyone, they ignored people.

Anyone ever tell you that you make too much sense?

Why yes! Someone did! I feel so accomplished right now, honestly.

 

[BeyondShy]

Why yes! Someone did! I feel so accomplished right now, honestly.

Don't tell me I am the only one that has said this.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Why yes! Someone did! I feel so accomplished right now, honestly.

Don't tell me I am the only one that has said this.

No, really, I was told just earlier today. Still trying to figure out how to put my bra on, though.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

No, really, I was told just earlier today. Still trying to figure out how to put my bra on, though.

 

[BeyondShy]

No, really, I was told just earlier today. Still trying to figure out how to put my bra on, though.

Uh, well ok. :shy:

Oh look, the phone's ringing. Gotta go!

 

[Solivagant]

It's funny that this is a question for women, because I clearly remember experiencing this kind of thing with men. It doesn't matter the gender.

I don't do that, so I can't really give my thoughts on that.

^ What they said. The possibilities are numerous.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Question For the Women:

What do you think of men who collect toys? It's not going to change my mind either way, but I was just curious to see if it always has a negative connotation, or if it can be at least considered neutral in most women's eyes. Personally, I enjoy collecting toys from Star Wars, Transformers, LEGO, miscellaneous creatures, and vehicles such as cars and aircraft.

I used to kind of hide my interest in such things, and I stopped collecting for a while because I just thought I'm in my 20s so I'm supposed to be into different things, or time just passed and I didn't think about it. But lately I was thinking that age is just a number - I'm going to get back into collecting because it made me happy.

I understand nobody likes anyone who is obsessed with anything, but I was just wondering what women thought of this in general.